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We learned in what men want that the largest benefit of marriage, for them, is having a dependable, monogamous sexual partner. This constitutes a great deal of their “marriage equity”. So what is the marriage equity for women? Financial security.
Other forms of security (emotional, physical) are also important. But in general, women view marriage as a chance to raise babies while not having to worry about financially supporting themselves.
From this viewpoint, what are we left to conclude? For men, marriage is not an earth shattering proposition. For women, however, marriage is far and away better than their options (think: lonely librarian cat lady). Again, why do you think there are all those magazines?
So what is the point of being armed with this knowledge? To be reminded that the burden is on you, the woman, to trap a man into marrying you. Marriage isn’t all flowers and sunshine for men. They’re not as excited about it as you are. Remember, life isn’t like Cinderella. A wealthy, handsome prince isn’t going to come sweep you off your feet while you’re mopping the floor. If you want a Prince, you’re going to have to work for it!
That can be a pretty disheartening thought for some women. But fear not, this site is here to help!
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1 Jack Wayne Chappell // Dec 28, 2008 at 4:17 pm
Well written, well said. Why not increase your value by adding a membership list of women seeking men? All the date sites do.
2 Deus // Jun 5, 2011 at 11:40 am
It’s nice to hear some honesty from the other side. Only stupid men marry, especially today.
Marriage use to be a mutually beneficial transaction where men exchange their surplus of labor and earning power with women in exchange for children.
Today laws have made it so that women can enjoy men’s labor after marriage, after taking their children and after taking their house, and if he fails to pay, he can be sent to prison, a violation of US law which outlawed debtor’s prison. Then again, no one in power cares about men’s rights.
I’m also sorry to tell you ladies, but judging by the 2010 census, you have about 20 more years before enough wise up to the outright discriminatory nature of marriage against them and refuse to sign the contract.
3 mae // Jul 3, 2011 at 1:23 am
Although it may have been originally the case a few decades ago, financial security is becoming less and less a reason for a woman to get married, though. I don’t need a husband for that reason alone–this is becoming more and more true as the number of women in college and high-paying vocations is continuously increasing. Personally, my main reasons for desiring a husband is because I want sex with a loving, respectful Christian man who will be a life-long, committed, loyal best friend/companion, and I want children (with a loving father that is present and active in their lives)–so yeah, 1) sex 2) children.
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