Nightclubs are a highly popular approach to meeting members of the opposite sex. Whether they would admit it or not, a major underlying reason most all people go to nightclubs are to be around attractive members of the opposite sex. We might come up with other superficial reasons for why we want to go to a nightclub (“oh I really like this DJ” or “I’m meeting for a friend’s birthday”), but the major appeal is a chance to find a mate. Unfortunately for women, I think it’s a fairly poor approach to finding a serious boyfriend.
The reason this is the case is because men have won nightclubs. In the battle between sexes for nightclub superiority, men are winning.
First, let’s look at each gender’s goal in the nightclub arena.
A typical woman going to a nightclub is probably hoping she’ll meet some great, attractive, successful guy who she can give her number to at the end of the night. Ideally, this man will call her within a day or two and tell her that he really wants to see her again. They will set up a date which will lead to more dating and eventually a boyfriend. That’s basically the female nightclub pipe dream. Of course, not every woman going into a nightclub shares this objective. Some of them just want to get laid or dance and be left alone or aren’t feeling well but got drug along by their friends and just want the night to get over with quickly. But the generic female goal of going to nightclubs is to land a man.
The male nightclub objective is much less romantic-minded. Most men go to a nightclub with the predominant hope that they will meet a girl they can have sex with that night. I know this because I am a man and I know a lot of other men. Whether they would admit it to you or not, the ideal result of a nightclub excursion for most men would be to take a woman back to their place and have sex with her.
Because of this mentality that men frequent nightclubs with, I think they are a fairly poor place for women to look for a man. Think of the sheer volume of available, attractive singles who mingle at nightclubs all over the world every night. And how often, really, do you hear of people starting a relationship after meeting at one? There is a big difference in success rate for finding a boyfriend between women who go to nightclubs and women who visit a place like Chemistry.com.
Men don’t go to nightclubs viewing the women they meet there as potential girlfriend/wife material. I believe the most major subconcious factor in helping a man determine if a woman is “girlfriend” material in his eyes is does he believe she would make a suitable partner for producing offspring?
Keep in mind, despite the comforts of civilization, we are all only animals. Men have not lost their evolutionary trait of seeking women for the purpose of propagating the species. I think most men are subconciously turned off by women in nightclubs because a woman who is out late at night getting drunk in public does not send off “good potential mother” vibes. It sends off “possible easy lay” vibes.
A lot of women pick up on this eventually, even if they are not able to articulate it, and stop frequenting nightclubs as a result. The fact of the matter is, men who go to nightclubs do not view the women they meet there as girlfriend material. That’s not to say that circumstances couldn’t later change in light of new information, but the initial impression men have of women they meet in nightclubs is rather poor for the woman’s chances of securing him as a boyfriend.
Men have won nightclubs. Men are having their objectives for visiting a nightclub (to get laid) met more often than woman are having their objectives met (to find a potential boyfriend). Nightclubs have evolved into a self-reinforcing loop where the only men who keep coming back are men who are finding success in their objective to meet and sleep with women. In other words, there’s really no boyfriend material in the room. It’s been overran by men who have figured out that they can sleep with women without needing to become their boyfriend.
In conclusion, sorry ladies, but da’ club really isn’t a great place for finding a man. Visit them if you like and have all the fun you want, just don’t go in expecting to find Mr. Right.