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Just like shopping for a car (or a purse, or an apple, or anything else), marriage is about two parties giving each other what they want. Toyota Motors creates vehicles. They market some of their vehicles as “high class”. They call these vehicles “Lexus”. When I go into a Lexus dealer and give them $45,000 for a car, what are they giving me? Well, amongst other things, they are giving me:
- The right to feel better than people who drive a brand of car inferior to that of Lexus.
- A dependable (at least I hope!) vehicle that can take me to and from whichever destination I please.
- State of the art safety features that will provide me with protection in the event of an accident.
And what am I giving them?
- $45,000
In this instance, Toyota Motors and I created a “marriage”. In exchange for what they offer, I will pay them more than it cost them to offer it. After our agreement, the whole is greater than the sum of the parts*. Put another way, both parties got what they wanted. Marriages work in precisely this fashion.
Cinderella might be a lovely, heart-warming fairy tale, but it is just that… a fairy tale. Cinderella has taught you that you will get what you want and won’t even have to do anything for it. In reality, if you want to marry a Prince, you‘ll have to work hard to give him what he wants. So what do men want? Good question! Read: What Men Want.
*As a side note, marriages fail when the participants realize that their whole is no longer greater than the sum of the parts. In other words, divorce occurs when participants in a marriage realize their value will increase by separating from each other.
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1 Jack Wayne Chappell // Dec 28, 2008 at 3:31 pm
Your comments are well intended and pragmatic. However, comparing shopping for a husband to shopping for a car is an improvable analogy.
Though you may be correct to a large extend, the car does what you tell it to do, and cars are basically the same.
People are totally unique. What most people want is gratification, whether male or female. They are searching for pleasures and priviliges that must be earned, as you have stated.
And, I agree with your analysis of what I call the ‘Cinderella Syndrome’. I’m interested in meeting women who are marriage minded, which is why I stumbled onto this website.
You could have something going here, but why give what you know away for free? All of what you are saying should be put into an e-book, and sold at fair market value.
It surprizes me that there were no comments here. Let me be the first to say ‘good job, keep it up’.
2 Jack Wayne Chappell // Dec 28, 2008 at 3:32 pm
Your comments are well intended and pragmatic. However, comparing shopping for a husband to shopping for a car is an improvable analogy.
Though you may be correct to a large extent, the car does what you tell it to do, and cars are basically the same.
People are totally unique. What most people want is gratification, whether male or female. They are searching for pleasures and priviliges that must be earned, as you have stated.
And, I agree with your analysis of what I call the ‘Cinderella Syndrome’. I’m interested in meeting women who are marriage minded, which is why I stumbled onto this website.
You could have something going here, but why give what you know away for free? All of what you are saying should be put into an e-book, and sold at fair market value.
It surprizes me that there were no comments here. Let me be the first to say ‘good job, keep it up’.
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