In the pursuit of attracting a high-value man (I’m talking about a guy who has his life together, is smart, makes decent money, etc), it’s important to remember not to be a bitch. There comes in every relationship a certain point where the woman begins to feel secure enough in the relationship that she thinks it’s okay to start dragging her high-maintenance crap into the man’s life. This is a major leak in the pursuit of marrying a high-value man.
To attract a high-value man, make his life easier, not harder. Any guy worth his salt probably deals with enough problems all day at work. He doesn’t want to deal with more when he’s home especially problems of the “totally avoidable” variety. Examples include: any problems your friends are having (NEVER drag your friends’ BS into your guy’s life), turning a small thing into a major thing, or you just simply being in a bad mood and taking it out on him.
We all have bad days and get in bad moods. An important component of being a good girlfriend or wife is learning to mitigate the damage that a bad mood of yours will cause in your relationships. Take stock of some ways to effectively deal with being in a bitchy mood (every woman gets in a bitchy mood from time to time, I’m not condemning it). Meditating, reading a book, going for a long walk, or taking a nap are all ways to help yourself decompress out of being in a bad mood. Do one of those things to prevent yourself from being in a position to be a bitch to your man. He’ll understand that you just need a personal hour (or day), so don’t let worries that he’s going to freak out if you fall off the radar for a few hours stop you from doing what you need to do to restore your mood. He won’t freak out. He’ll probably appreciate the solitude.
No guy wants his girlfriend or wife to create more problems in his life to deal with. It sounds obvious but you’d think that concept is as hard as quantum physics for some women to grasp. Some people like to live in the margin of drama. No matter how perfect things are going for them, that’s not enough. They have to create problems and drama wherever they go in order to feel like they matter as a person. Are you one of those people? If so, you’ve got a major personality overhaul you need to accomplish before a high-value man is going to have any interest in you.
Or society praises drama. Shows like Jersey Shore and Real Housewives broadcast a message that if you act as dramatic and needy as possible that you will get attention and love. This simply does not work in the real world. No guy worth his salt wants to deal with a high-maintenance bitch like you see on Real Housewives. The men who do put up with that element do so because they themselves have major insecurity issues. You don’t want to be with a guy like that.
Cut out the bitchiness and drama. Most of you don’t need to be told this, but some of you do: if you’re creating problems for your man rather than helping to solve the ones that are already there, he ultimately will want nothing to do with you.